You say you want a wife . . . a virtuous woman! Well, consider this when looking for one and ask yourself ‘am I the kind of man that appeals to the virtuous woman?’
Think about it!
She changes her name and her home to be with you, including her family and all that she knows.
She marries you and moves in to build a home with you (in that order). Her body changes and grows to accommodate new life, enduring labor and the unbearable pains of child birth to deliver children that bear your name. She sacrifices over and over again . . . perhaps too much at times for you and your family.
Until she departs this life, everything she does, from cleaning the house to taking care of parents, child-care, earning, advising, ensuring your comfort and relaxation, partnering in your adventures, maintaining all family relations, everything that benefits you and your family . . . sometimes at the cost of her own health , hobbies and beauty, she offers unselfishly. She endures the good and the bad, the better and the worse, and the richer and the poorer.
So who is really doing whom a favor? And whose noble deeds are really on display in the relationship?
She is a virtuous woman, whose giving and sacrifice is akin to divine sacrifice, ‘for God so loved the world that He gave . . .”
Appreciate the woman in your life, ‘always and forever.’ Because being a woman is a beautiful thing, and being the virtuous kind, well, “. . . her worth is far above rubies.” (Proverbs 31:10b NKJV) In other words, invaluable! She is to be treasured, praised and loved.
So, you still want a wife, the virtuous kind? Well, before you get her, make sure that you are the man for this virtuous woman. “Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.” “Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.” (Proverbs 31:23 & 28 NKJV)
Make sure that you’re a good man for a good woman, with maturity, mentally and spiritually, who can sit among the elders with dignity and integrity. And make sure that she is praised by you! Be the man for the woman, the virtuous man for the virtuous woman.
Adapted from Prince Phemy Davi Afolabi’s version, posted on John Dumelo’s Facebook page.